Promise is a little tricky because there are definitely some promises you should never make to your kids. When use appropriately, though, “I promise” statements can convey dedication in a way that’s clear and full of meaning.
For example :
• I promise to always consider your feelings and try to see things from your point of view.
• I promise to listen to what you have to say.
• I promise to always love you, no matter what.
This is an opportunity to share your confidence in you child, as well as the beliefs that continue to motivate you personally. For example, you might include the following when writing a letter to a child:
• Your own convictions about his or her future.
• A Bible verse that speaks to this time in his or her life.
• A quotation that has touched you personally.
In addition, take the time to share your highest hopes in your letter. For example, you might include:
• Your hopes regarding his or her own dreams.
• Your hopes for your child’s own observations of his or her talents.
• Your hopes for your child’s friendships.
In each letter to your child, share a few memories that mean a lot to you personally. Your stories will communicate truth in a way that’s more memorable to your child than any singular compliment.
For example, you might include:
• The memory of a time when you realized your child had grown in some way.
• An observation you’ll never forget.
• Memories of a shared vacation.
This is something we all long to hear, and the words will nourish your child when he or she re-reads the letter years from now. For example, you might express pride in your child’s:
• Athletics abilities and/or various talents.
• Academic progress and/or work ethic.
• Interpersonal relationships.
This will mean a lot to your child, and it will help put the letter into context when he or she reads it again in the years to come.
• Reading together
• Cooking together
• Playing together
When writing a letter to your child, share what you’ve noticed recently about him or her. How has she grown? What positive characteristics do you see emerging?
• The maturity you’ve witnessed in how your child handles conflicts.
• The kindness your daughter shows her friends
• The generosity your son has for his siblings.
Of course, you want to tell your child how you feel. Even if I love you is something you say every day. The message is conveyed differently when the words are shared in writing.
For example, you might say
• There’s nothing that could ever change how I feel about you.
• Being your parent has been one of the greatest gifts in my life.
• It’s hard for me to describe much I love you !